What makes you happy in life? Is it your career, traveling, family, hobby, phone, house, car, etc.? Think about that, and I’ll return to that thought.
When my youngest daughter, Kayzle, was twenty months old, I started a full-time position at a college. She attended a daycare that had excellent reviews. It was connected with my place of employment. I could look out of my office window and see the daycare building. From the first time I met her teacher, I didn’t feel comfortable with her (trust your gut!). I thought it was my overprotective mama bear instincts kicking in, so I ignored this feeling. My daughter was bitten two times within three weeks of being at the school, and the teacher had no idea who had bitten her. She even asked me if I had brought her to school with a bite on the back of her arm or if Kayzle had bitten herself. (Please tell me how a twenty-month-old can bite herself on the back of her arm.)
I complained to the Preschool Director. An “action plan” took place. They were going to start watching her (really???) and taking notes on who kept biting her. One week later, I picked her up from the daycare and found this:
Her “teacher” was scared of me (and she should’ve been). Instead of admitting that Kayzle was bitten again, the teacher put ice on her arm for so long to try and hide the bit, she gave her frostbite. My daughter had to use burn cream and follow-up with a dermatologist for a year because at least a layer of her skin sloughed off.
My daughter switched preschool teachers. I finished teaching for that school year, but I quit full-time after that. I didn’t have any family help to watch her while I worked. I know this is not always an option, but in my case, the risk of someone watching her wasn’t worth the rewards I was receiving from my career.
I had a prestigious tenure assistant professor position, so I felt horrible quitting. I thought the nursing faculty would look at me as a failure. Around the same time, our assistant dean had passed away on short notice from cancer. It made me realize how short life truly is. When I went to my dean to tell her I was quitting full-time and explained why, she told me something that I’ll never forget.
“No one lays on his or her deathbed and says, ‘I wish I would’ve worked more.'”
Family and being there for my children as much as I can are critical to me. My daughter was too young to tell me what happened, but she was kicking and screaming going to school for about a week after the incident. It was too traumatizing to me. I chose to work part-time and be at home more. She will be in kindergarten this year, and I will work more. She can also talk to me about any issues, which makes me feel a LOT better.
Back to my question earlier. What makes us happy in life or gives us meaning differs for all of us. Decide the answers to these questions and remember to keep them in mind with your decisions. If you do this, you can cut a lot of the “extras” out in life. I found a great quote on the Minimalism website.
“Today’s problem seems to be the meaning we assign to our stuff: we tend to give too much meaning to our things, often forsaking our health, our relationships, our passions, our personal growth, and our desire to contribute beyond ourselves.”
Additionally, I heard this quote in a minimalism video, “You’re not going to get happy by consuming more.”
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