A Mother’s Love

February is known as the month of love to many. Therefore, Collaboration with a Purpose decided to write about any kind of love. I took this opportunity to give an update on my nine-year-old son, Jy. I wrote a post in the past about how Jy suffered from encephalitis and Guillain-Barre Syndrome at the end of 2015 post the flu mist. He was in a coma for 8 days, in level two sleep for another two weeks, and hospitalized for almost two months. When he woke up, he became quadriplegic. He had to learn how to walk, talk, eat, go to the bathroom, etc. all over again. During Jy’s hospitalization at St Rose and Primary Children’s Hospitals, I felt pain I never knew existed, but I also felt a love for his life greater than the universe itself. I have four children. I love all of them, but I didn’t really know the power of a mother’s love until I almost lost a child.

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Update

For the last two years, Jy has been through extensive physical, occupational, and speech therapies, counseling to help with his emotions; Tomatis therapy through Brain Solutions (you can read about it here); holistic treatment; auditory processing therapy; visual processing therapy; chiropractic treatment with diet modifications; and tutoring with primitive reflex treatments, quantum reflex integration (QRI) therapy, Samonas sound therapy, and core strengthening. He has an individualized education program (IEP) at school to help Jy catch up to his peers and utilize the best resources to help him learn. He is in fourth grade and reading at about a second-grade level. He is doing well in math, but he was a math genius before. 😄 If he has to use his brain intensively (reading/comprehension, writing), it can exhaust him where he needs mental breaks. He has a difficult time concentrating. He still has emotional outbursts (meltdowns) and can’t play soccer like he used to, but he is getting better with his current treatments. The brain is so complex, but it can be trained with proper treatment.

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On our way to Primary Children’s Hospital. That was his cute soccer team.

 

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Flight to Primary Children’s Hospital. Jy started therapy. Cousins. Favorite pillow!
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First day at Stowell Learning Center in Chino, CA. Samonas Sound Therapy. (But that’s a video game he is sneaking to play!)

 

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Core strengthening. Warrior pose (I think! Can’t remember them all.). Teaching him to concentrate too.
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QRI cold laser treatment

 

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Jy is a Warrior! He created that Vegas Strong warrior hat :). I helped him cut it out. That’s a sword not a wand. ha ha We had to improvise!

 A Mother’s Love

The one thing I learned through Jy’s experience is that many things don’t matter. Health, love, and family are some things that can never be bought. (Well, you have to pay for healthcare, but some illnesses like encephalitis and GBS can happen. You can’t pay to take it away.) Children depend on their parents. When Jy was in the hospital, I requested stuff and refused stuff. No one knows a child better than a parent. When he finished his “traditional” therapies, I was told, “here you go.” Jy was “functioning.” That was not okay for me. I want Jy to have to best outcome in life, and that requires him to be back at his baseline (or as close to it as possible). Because of the love I have for him, I will get Jy all the treatment he needs and deserves.

Please tell me if you can relate to the love of a mother or the power of love. There is always a silver lining to every situation. 

A Mother’s Love Poem by me!

From the moment you cried into the still air, I felt my heart swell until I thought it would burst out of my chest.

With every aspect of life, I want you to have the best.

When you hurt, I cry.

There is nothing I wouldn’t do to help you fly.

A bad day at work dissipates with the wind when I see your smile and feel your warm hug.

I can’t stay mad at you for long because on my heart you tug.

If you’re sick or have a bad nightmare, come into my arms and let me rock you to sleep.

If I lost you, my world would shatter, and there aren’t enough tears in the world for me to weep.

I promise to cherish every moment I have with you.

You give me a reason for all I do.

You taught me the true meaning of love.

You are a gift from above.

Blog Collaborators

Thank you for reading! Happy LOVE ❤️ month! I hope to blog at least once a month with my collaborators.

This post is part of a blog collaboration. Please take the time to read the rest of the posts below from inspirational fellow bloggers who wrote about love.

  • Barb Caffrey @ Barb Caffrey’s Blog (“So, if you believe in any sort of Higher Power, one of the things you need to remember is to forgive yourself once in a while.”)
  • Divyang Shah @ i think my way (“If someone don’t speak much, don’t interpret as a dumb, their mind must be working on something very big or may be he is a writer and observing surrounding on which he would come with some deep write-ups.”)
  • Jane Love @ Harmonious Joy (“People who have a genuine say and a true voice of their own… not just an echo of some celebrity they think they love.”) *Cover Photo by Jane
  • Mylene C. Orillo (“Where I’m at right now is a testament that ‘Dreams really do come true.’”)
  • Sadaf Siddiqi (“The best thing about memories, is one doesn’t realize they are making memories but once recorded, it just rewinds and takes one back to the beautiful series of life.”)
  • Sonyo Estavillo @ ‘Lil Pick Me Up (“I am here to champion anyone from the successful and confident folks to those that are clinically depressed.”)
  • Swati Kadam (“We provide an essence of little bit of sense, that we all left behind and forgot to recollect.”)
  • Nicolle K @ Stories of a Highly Sensitive Introvert! (“Success, for me, is when I spend my days feeling happy, peaceful, fulfilled and without fear of lack. 😊”)

Stolen 😄 from Jane

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62 thoughts on “A Mother’s Love

  1. I’m not a parent, so I can only imagine the pain and depth of your experience with your son. I’m glad Jy is healing and has helped you remember what is important to you. Love, health, and family are precious gifts indeed. Blessings, Brad

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  2. I’m glad Jy is doing better, and I’m very glad he has you for a mother. 🙂 I know you are encouraging and supportive and helpful, and you have given him a ton of useful insights. And you’ve learned from him, too…I can tell that from reading this post. 😀

    Great work, Ipuna.

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      1. Me too! It’s one of the things that keep me going with my blog, even though I still haven’t quite settled on a proper routine yet (after stopping temporarily after last November’s NaNoWriMo challenge 😅), plus I love seeing different perspectives of the same theme every month. 😀

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  3. Jy is an amazing and strong little guy with a wonderful mother whose strength and love is undeniable. I am SO happy to hear and see Jy is healing. He is a warrior and so inspiring!! Your poem was fabulous as well. Jy is a lucky little man to have a mother as wonderful and loving as you!! Sending you both LOTS of LOVE and COMFORT!!!

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  4. Such a strong little man! And that poem had me in tears! You are beautiful, and an amazing mother! I don’t know the feeling of being a mother, but I know the feeling of being a daughter to an amazing mother like you! My mom is my best friend and has been there for me through everything. I would not have survived being diagnosed with type 1 diabetes without her and she was my rock when I battled depression in high school. I can tell you are Jy’s rock and I am sending you both positive thoughts! ❤

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    1. You have such a wonderful mother! Honestly, I didn’t have a great mother, but thank heavens our relationship didn’t influence my love for my kids.
      Thank you so much on the positive thoughts!!! ❤️ Your blog is so gorgeous! You are so consistent with your reviews. 🙂

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  5. I’ve been blessed to work at a school for the last 8 years and I work and see some of the kids with special needs. I’ve learned so much. The main thing I’ve learned…..these are the most special kids of all. There’s just something about them that is unforgettable and incredible. So stay the course. Work hard. Never accept a negative outcome. And most of all cherish the person Jy is and don’t worry about the bad stuff. It’s all a blessing and others will see that in your boy too. He’s a special person and a blessing to you, your family, and everyone else that comes into contact with him. Godbless! Reid

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    1. Awe, thank you, Reid! Your insight means a lot, especially coming from your background. His teachers have said they love his sweet nature and how hard he works. He is a blessing for sure. It’s been tough, but he’s alive and has taught our family so much about love, fighting for more, and so much more. He is a deep thinker too. Sometimes kids with special needs have so much insight. Thank you again for your words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it.

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  6. I agree.. The love that unites a family is the best kind there is. And there’s nothing greater than a mother’s love. I can totally relate to the poem (so beautiful it had me in tears).

    One reason for my sleeping schedule is because I love to look through past albums with Mom as “we” reflect on how far the kiddos have come. 😛 There is not a night that she doesn’t cry but at least I’m glad they are tears of joy.

    Mothers are the best.

    And Jy’s truly a fighter. I’m so proud of him. Reminds me of a song by Jamie Grace titled “Fighter”. Love it!

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    1. You must have a wonderful mother to understand/feel the poem. 🙂

      Wow! That’s such a special thing to do with your mom!

      I don’t know that song. I just listened to it. It’s so pretty! Yes, that’s a wonderful song for Jy!

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      1. That’s true. She’s totally amazing.

        But also because I’ve been like a mother to many kids and have gone through most of what the poem describes. Especially in the case of David (one of my adopted sons who passed away at the age of two because he had a hole in his heart). His condition had him weak and unable to stand or sit up straight without assistance. He had difficulty walking and retaining food for a while. Even with all this, nothing can match the pain I felt at losing him twice (a story for another day)

        Nowadays, we don’t do it as frequently anymore but I’m gotten so used to the schedule that I just maintain it.

        She writes some great songs… That’s definitely Jy’s song. He’s a fighter… got that fire when they thought he’d fade away… lovely words.

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  7. “I felt pain I never knew existed, but I also felt a love for his life greater than the universe itself. I have four children. I love all of them, but I didn’t really know the power of a mother’s love until I almost lost a child.” OMG! I cried when I read this. I am not yet a parent, but you know what I’ve been through as an aunt, what more for a mother like you. I continued crying when I saw Jy’s photos at the hospital and at the wheelchair. I remembered Rianna and I miss her a lot. All my prayers for Jy. He is looking really good. Thank you for the updates. He’s always in my prayers for his continuous recovery. Also to you Ipuna. May God give you the strength and good health. Thank you for everything.

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    1. I’m so slow to respond! I’ve been very busy writing :).
      Thank you, Mylene. I know what you went through. You are a fantastic aunt and support to your sister. Thank you for understanding Jy and cheering for him. He is a blessing even though it’s still been a struggle. I will take what I can get. God has a plan! 🙂

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