February is known as the month of love to many. Therefore, Collaboration with a Purpose decided to write about any kind of love. I took this opportunity to give an update on my nine-year-old son, Jy. I wrote a post in the past about how Jy suffered from encephalitis and Guillain-Barre Syndrome at the end of 2015 post the flu mist. He was in a coma for 8 days, in level two sleep for another two weeks, and hospitalized for almost two months. When he woke up, he became quadriplegic. He had to learn how to walk, talk, eat, go to the bathroom, etc. all over again. During Jy’s hospitalization at St Rose and Primary Children’s Hospitals, I felt pain I never knew existed, but I also felt a love for his life greater than the universe itself. I have four children. I love all of them, but I didn’t really know the power of a mother’s love until I almost lost a child.
For the last two years, Jy has been through extensive physical, occupational, and speech therapies, counseling to help with his emotions; Tomatis therapy through Brain Solutions (you can read about it here); holistic treatment; auditory processing therapy; visual processing therapy; chiropractic treatment with diet modifications; and tutoring with primitive reflex treatments, quantum reflex integration (QRI) therapy, Samonas sound therapy, and core strengthening. He has an individualized education program (IEP) at school to help Jy catch up to his peers and utilize the best resources to help him learn. He is in fourth grade and reading at about a second-grade level. He is doing well in math, but he was a math genius before. 😄 If he has to use his brain intensively (reading/comprehension, writing), it can exhaust him where he needs mental breaks. He has a difficult time concentrating. He still has emotional outbursts (meltdowns) and can’t play soccer like he used to, but he is getting better with his current treatments. The brain is so complex, but it can be trained with proper treatment.
A Mother’s Love
The one thing I learned through Jy’s experience is that many things don’t matter. Health, love, and family are some things that can never be bought. (Well, you have to pay for healthcare, but some illnesses like encephalitis and GBS can happen. You can’t pay to take it away.) Children depend on their parents. When Jy was in the hospital, I requested stuff and refused stuff. No one knows a child better than a parent. When he finished his “traditional” therapies, I was told, “here you go.” Jy was “functioning.” That was not okay for me. I want Jy to have to best outcome in life, and that requires him to be back at his baseline (or as close to it as possible). Because of the love I have for him, I will get Jy all the treatment he needs and deserves.
Please tell me if you can relate to the love of a mother or the power of love. There is always a silver lining to every situation.
A Mother’s Love Poem by me!
From the moment you cried into the still air, I felt my heart swell until I thought it would burst out of my chest.
With every aspect of life, I want you to have the best.
When you hurt, I cry.
There is nothing I wouldn’t do to help you fly.
A bad day at work dissipates with the wind when I see your smile and feel your warm hug.
I can’t stay mad at you for long because on my heart you tug.
If you’re sick or have a bad nightmare, come into my arms and let me rock you to sleep.
If I lost you, my world would shatter, and there aren’t enough tears in the world for me to weep.
I promise to cherish every moment I have with you.
You give me a reason for all I do.
You taught me the true meaning of love.
You are a gift from above.
Thank you for reading! Happy LOVE ❤️ month! I hope to blog at least once a month with my collaborators.
This post is part of a blog collaboration. Please take the time to read the rest of the posts below from inspirational fellow bloggers who wrote about love.
- Barb Caffrey @ Barb Caffrey’s Blog (“So, if you believe in any sort of Higher Power, one of the things you need to remember is to forgive yourself once in a while.”)
- Divyang Shah @ i think my way (“If someone don’t speak much, don’t interpret as a dumb, their mind must be working on something very big or may be he is a writer and observing surrounding on which he would come with some deep write-ups.”)
- Jane Love @ Harmonious Joy (“People who have a genuine say and a true voice of their own… not just an echo of some celebrity they think they love.”) *Cover Photo by Jane
- Mylene C. Orillo (“Where I’m at right now is a testament that ‘Dreams really do come true.’”)
- Sadaf Siddiqi (“The best thing about memories, is one doesn’t realize they are making memories but once recorded, it just rewinds and takes one back to the beautiful series of life.”)
- Sonyo Estavillo @ ‘Lil Pick Me Up (“I am here to champion anyone from the successful and confident folks to those that are clinically depressed.”)
- Swati Kadam (“We provide an essence of little bit of sense, that we all left behind and forgot to recollect.”)
- Nicolle K @ Stories of a Highly Sensitive Introvert! (“Success, for me, is when I spend my days feeling happy, peaceful, fulfilled and without fear of lack. 😊”)
Stolen 😄 from Jane
- Jane: What manner of love is this?
- Barb Caffrey: Celebrating the Love of Friends
- Nicolle K.: Collaboration with a Purpose: Love – There’s No One Right Way to Love
- Sadaf Siddiqi: Love and Respect
- Mylene Orillo: 5 People You Will Love in Your Lifetime
- Sonyo Estavillo: Love as a Solution: Diving Below the Superficial
- Divyang Shah: Love the Living Being
- Swati Kadam: Complement