Our worst enemy is our thoughts. Our thoughts can hold us back from achieving greatness or push us forward toward limitless. Everyone wants to strive for limitless. One key factor to achieving this feeling is to feed our brains with positive thoughts. It’s difficult to have positive thoughts if you don’t feel good about your core self. What causes you to feel good about yourself? Self-love and acceptance. We should love and accept all aspects of ourselves. Of course, there is always room for growth, but we all have to start at a baseline. It’s important to love and accept ourselves right now. Not when we have this or take away that. If we can love and accept ourselves now, we can feel good about ourselves, which will help feed our minds positive thoughts to achieve more.
Positive and Negative Bank Accounts of Thoughts
Meet my friend Debbie. She is broke = 0 dollars in her bank account. Debbie can handle this situation in two ways.
- Feels sorry for herself and her situation.
- Tells herself that she will always be broke.
- Pushes everyone away because she convinces herself that no one likes a broke person. (She is partially right, but she can fix this!)
- Dusts herself off.
- Asks family for help, but presents them a specific plan on how she will help herself (e.g., what jobs she will apply for and in what timeframe, what she could do in return to help her family until she receives an income)
- Puts a smile on her face and begins interviewing for jobs immediately.
We are always going to have rough times in our lives, but we can choose how we handle the situations. If we want to be like Debbie Downer, we will continue to deposit negative thoughts into our brain bank account, which will overdraw our emotions and ability to cope with the situation. The spiral continues downhill. Or we could choose to take the Debbie Doer approach. Accept that we are broke. Dust ourselves off and take some steps forward. With each step forward, we will deposit positive thoughts into our brain bank account. The positive thoughts help us with optimism and hope. That’s much better than living with despair, regret, and anguish.
Our positive thoughts add fuel toward how we feel about ourselves. Self-love and acceptance exist when we feel good about ourselves.
My definition of self-love is knowing my strengths and weaknesses and accepting all of me at all times. Here are three tips on self-love.
- We are not perfect, so even if we do something disappointing, it’s important to love ourselves through good and bad times.
- Beating yourself up with negative thoughts isn’t productive. Acknowledge your mistakes, and with love, work on improving.
- Before bed and in the morning, remind yourself of all that you are grateful for, including your great qualities and deeds. This will help with your self-esteem and positivity.
“Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it, protest, or exit.”
Simplified, I believe accepting oneself includes being okay with who you are. Here are three tips on acceptance.
- Being content with your body and only changing it if you want to change it. Don’t change it to please others.
- Know your limitations. You can always shoot for the stars, but don’t beat yourself up if you can’t dunk because you are only five feet even.
- Value your diversity. No two people are alike. This doesn’t mean everyone has to conform to one thing. Accept that you may be different from another person both internally and/or externally, and that is just fine.
It took time for me to mature and love and accept who I am both externally and internally. It’s not always easy to push negative thoughts aside, but the more you practice it, the easier it gets. (Just like riding a bike some may say or for me- just like cooking….wait….I don’t like to cook!)
This world revolves around love. There is no other feeling like it. It’s hard to accept love from others if you can’t first love yourself. I hope today that you reflect on all the unique and diverse aspects that make up you. Love those aspects. Accept your strengths and weaknesses while you love yourself through this journey called life. Tell yourself that you are AWESOME! (Is that an old folk’s word? I still really like it.) Reach for limitless. You are not alone. We are all on this journey together.
Thank you for reading! I look forward to your comments!
Collaboration with a Purpose Past Posts
Amazing Blog Collaborators: 15 bloggers with 1 Purpose- To write about Self-Love and Acceptance
This is the fourth Collaboration with a Purpose blog post. Please check out all of the amazing and inspiring posts on Self-love and Acceptance. You will definitely feel loved when you are done reading! (Links will come as the articles are posted.)
- Addison D’Marko: Self Acceptance and Self Love
- Barb Caffrey @ Barb Caffrey’s Blog: Why is Self-Acceptance So Damned Hard?
- Camilla Motte @ Moms on the Go: How to love yourself
- Divyang Shah @ i think my way: Self-love & Acceptance
- Ipuna Black: Self-Love and Acceptance
- Jane Love @ Harmonious Joy: Why You Should Love Yourself
- Joel A. Scott: Self-love and Acceptance
- Jothish Joseph @ TheJothishJosephBlog: Self Love and Acceptance
- Manal Ahmad a.k.a. iamthatgirl23 @ Sensible Nonsense: Self Love and Acceptance
- Mylene C. Orillo: How to Practice Self-Love and Acceptance
- Nicolle K @ Stories of a Highly Sensitive Introvert: Self-Love & Acceptance, Self-Esteem & Writing Self-Compassionate Letters
- Sadaf Siddiqi: Self-Love and Acceptance
- Sonyo Estavillo @ ‘Lil Pick Me Up: Self-Respect Means Knowing What Love Is & What Love Is Not
- Tajwar Fatma @ LifeAsWeHaveNeverKnownIt: Self love and acceptance
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