Growing up, I used to hate my scar on my right leg. I would try to hide it with my other leg. I fell through a sliding glass door when I was about three years old. I always thought my scar from this incident looked like a track runner jumping over a hurdle. I used to run hurdles in high school, so maybe that’s where I got that idea. My scar could look like a Y or a funny mustache. Whatever I thought it looked like didn’t matter as much as how it made me feel. I didn’t like it because it wasn’t supposed to be there. Now, this is a visible skin scar that I used to not like. But how many of us walk around with hidden internal scars on our hearts or minds that we wished weren’t there? What scars do you hide behind?
What are scars?
The word scar came can be traced to the Greek word “eskhara” (in French “escharre”). The term “scar” was first used in English in the 14th century. Sorry if that is boring, but I think it’s pretty cool. One definition of a scar is “a fault or blemish resulting from some former condition, wound, sore or burn. This scar tissue lacks the characteristics of the normal uninjured skin.” Basically, your skin is changed forever. It will never go back to the “uninjured” state.
Scars are physical, but we have all experienced events in our lives that have changed us forever. We may never go back to our “uninjured” state, but this doesn’t mean that we can’t find a way to live a complete, happy, and fulfilled life.
How can we heal from scars?
I have scars from my childhood due to the lack of support in my home and some physical and emotional abuse. I will never forget the events that happened to me as a child, but I couldn’t live the fulfilled, positive, productive, and happy life that I have now if it wasn’t for my ability to forgive and make choices for a better future. Here are four tips that helped me heal from the scars I was hiding behind. I hope if you are hiding behind any scars, these tips may help you move forward in life.
- Forgive. You will feel a weight lifted off you if you forgive whoever gave you your hidden scars. You may have to forgive yourself for your choices.
- Make the best choices for your future. You are in charge of your future, not your past. There is no excuse why you can’t be everything you dreamed of.
- Surround yourself with positive people who care about you. Positive people who care about you can help you walk through your healing process.
- Spirituality. I’ve always believed in a God who loved me more than anyone else could. A God who knew I was special even if I didn’t feel special. This gave me hope. You may not believe in God, but maybe you embrace nature or the universe. Does nature or the universe give you hope? In times of despair when we are receiving scars, we have to have hope, or it’s hard to heal.
Do you have any advice on healing from hidden scars?
I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend! I will be camping with my daughter at a church function. It will be nice to be surrounded by nature 🌾again. I’m not looking forward to sleeping in a tent. Sorry, my tent lovers! I love my bed too much. 😬 I may not repond to comments quickly because I will have no reception! I’ve been slow to respond to comments this week because of my car situation, but things are getting better.
And P.S., I’m fine with my scar on my leg. It is part of me, and I’m okay with that! Toddler battle wound.
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