This world owes us nothing. It really doesn’t. We have to earn everything. Most of my kids play sports. When my children used to play more at the recreational level, they would get a trophy at the end of each season just for showing up. Honestly, I didn’t like this much. Playing devil’s advocate, I can see how getting a trophy at the end of the season feels like an accomplishment. The child finished the season. The issue that I had with it was that the kids expected it no matter what. The parents pay the money (not the child of course), and the child gets a trophy. This doesn’t seem like a big deal and it really isn’t, but it can be a bigger deal on a larger scale.
College Level
I’ve noticed that some of the students at the college level have changed compared to years ago. I had a master’s degree student who was completing her clinical hours shadowing me one day. She was talking to a male student nurse. She asked him a question about a medication. He told her, “That’s what I pay you for. To give me the answer.”
What??? I think if my head could’ve twirled around on my neck, it would’ve. I was shocked at this response.
Just because you pay for college doesn’t mean you will be handed a degree. Sorry. It doesn’t work that way. You have to work for each letter grade and each credit toward that precious piece of paper called a degree. (And PS, you will have to work even harder after you graduate to make things happen for yourself.)
Student of the Month
My nine-year-old son, Jy, said to me last week, “I told Mrs. S that I’m going to be good and work hard all week next week so that I can get Student of the Month.”
(PS Jy, You should be good and work hard all the time says your mama!)
Mrs. S told him that if he worked hard and was good all week, he would get Student of the Month.
I love the initiative Jy took. He told the teacher exactly what he wanted AND what HE was going to do to EARN it. He didn’t say, “Mrs. S, why don’t you GIVE me Student of the Month?”
You want something? Be bold and find a way to earn it.
Go After What You Want. Don’t Wait for It to be Handed to You.
Now, it’s your turn. What is it that you really want right now? Our wants always change, so don’t think too far ahead. Think about what you really want right now. List 3-5 steps you can take to get it. I like listing steps because I can check them off as I complete them. Checking each step off will get me one step closer to my goal(s) or what I want.
Go work on those steps. Nothing will be handed to you (like that trophy at the end of a sports season- nope those good ol’ days are over), but you can EARN whatever you choose to work hard for. 💪
Join my mailing list for Positive Information on Being Your Best Self and Updates
Join my private positive FB group page: Your Best Self.
Let’s connect ❤️:
Great post! List made, and just like Jy, I’m on it. Thanks, Ipuna.
LikeLiked by 4 people
Ooh. Thanks on the list! I’m sure you are on it!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Great post, Sunshine. And Jy, MAMA’s right. It should be something you do all the time. However, I’m glad you knew what you wanted and set out to get it.
I’ve made my list and I’m going to get it!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Get it, Jainey! Keep me updated too! ☀️
Mama…… grrrr.
LikeLiked by 1 person
You said it first!! 😛 😛
I will.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I love this. My husband and I talk about this all the time. We talk about it with our daughter and explain why she can’t keep participation trophies.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Oh good, Alysha. I’m not the only one who does that. Ha ha. We let our kids have them for a little while, and then, we get rid them all. The kids only keep the ones that they earned: championship, player of the game, etc. (We would have a clutter mess too if we kept everything!)
LikeLiked by 1 person
Definitely! Plus it is a really good chance to open that communication line about what a trophy means and what you have to do IF you want one. It really puts the ball in their court.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Very true. Kids learn best from natural situations.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post✨ in going to create my list before the day is over☺️
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yeah!!! That’s wonderful. Thanks for participating, Lee. ❤️☀️
LikeLiked by 1 person
What I want right now is to graduate as a Life Coach and I am willing to put in the hours and effort to get there 🙂 What I also want is to run a total of 250k this year and I SHOULD make that, if I stop coming down with the cold, heheh.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ooh, two great goals! I love it. You will get your Life Coach! I know it. You are determined and have been working so hard. And yeah on the run! I love running (but not so much in races….more for a mental thing). Thanks for filling me in on your goals. I love to hear about your progress. It motivates me to keep pushing forward.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Well said.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you, Kevin.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It was such a wonderful read Ipuna. And I love Jy ❤ He is such a determined kid. And I love how you put it, be bold and find a way to earn it!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yeah! Jy is a sweetie, blessing, and miracle. I learn from him each day. Thank you! ❤️ He is a determined kid. I was very lucky to be with him every day during his recovery. I’ve never seen him fight so hard to regain his strength. He didn’t like to be told he couldn’t do something (like someone else I know… ha ha).
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post! Jy’s initiative is commendable and adorable. Have a wonderful day.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you! Jy has been through a lot with his medical recovery. I love his drive to get what he wants. It will get him far in life. I love it when I learn from my kids too. Have a wonderful day as well! ☀️
LikeLiked by 1 person
Really really true! Nothing is and should be free, otherwise life will appear to be a joke.
A lot of my friends just go and get marks entered against their names by pleading to the teacher or by false means. They don’t earn their marks. I keep telling them, earn your degree don’t just buy it. Such a relatable topic!
LikeLiked by 4 people
YES!!! I saw this stuff all of the time in the college setting. Thank you for comment. You are a hard working student. It will get you far for sure.
LikeLiked by 1 person
These words can keep me happy and encouraged forever indeed! 😊😊
LikeLiked by 2 people
❤️
LikeLiked by 1 person
When one works for what they want there is no one who needs to be paid a debt.
LikeLiked by 4 people
That’s a great way of putting it.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you, Letisha 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
That was a great response. I agree, Letisha!
LikeLike
You are so wise, John. I love it. Thank you!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you, Ipuna. Your post inspired the thought.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Awe, thank you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great advice Ipuna 🙂 Some where along the way we forgot that we have to EARN things. And they mean so much more to you when you actually earn them. Not a lot of value OR appreciation in things that are just handed to us 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
Yes! Exactly. I’ve had to work really hard for many things in my life, but I’m grateful for who I became because of it. Thank you, Margaret.
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’re very welcome 🙂 I too have worked, and struggled and I am appreciative of everything God has blessed me with. But it wouldn’t mean as much if it had been handed to me without sweat equity.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Very very very true.
LikeLiked by 1 person
How true! We value things so much more when we can remember all the steps we went through to achieve them. I love a goals list to check off as I progress and reminds me what I’m working towards. Jy obviously already has this mindset 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
Indeed
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Welcome we should support each other….share the link you might win the audience gauge
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you! I’m grateful Jy has that mindset at a young age. I have a teen, and it’s hard to teach him goal setting. Each child is different. I just have to find a different approach with him, or he has to want something bad enough.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, every child is different. Your teen’s makes decisions and choices daily which require some some element of goal setting. He’s probably happy staying in short-term goal setting mode for the time being but will switch up a gear to medium-long term goal setting when he wants something bad enough as you say 🙂 I can imagine you’re a really open & approachable parent so just keep doing what you do & being there for him. You’ll be the one he’ll turn to for advice when he decides it’s time to step up 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, Letisha! Yes, he openly speaks with me, thank goodness. I jump on every opportunity to steer him in the right direction. You’re great with advice. You should look into psychology or just keep mingling in the blog world. You can help many!
LikeLike
Follow#followed#…….be….supportive to each….other…
Join the weekly nomitaions…
http://pesa254.wordPress.com
LikeLiked by 2 people
Funny little Jy, I wonder if it occurred to him that Student of the Month means working hard throughout the month, not week. How cute. 😆
Awesome post as always, Ipuna! We need to go after what we want and not wait for it to come; after all, a novel isn’t going to write itself. 😛
LikeLiked by 3 people
To funny. I asked him today how it was going, and he said, “I’m trying really hard.” We will see.
Oh yeah. On that novel thing…. Ha ha. My book is out to a couple of literary agents. Publishing isn’t easy, but I’m hoping for the best.
Write write write yourself!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Jy is so cute. ❤
And yeah, I imagine publishing isn’t easy. Good luck and you get it published soon! 😀
Haha, yes, I’m writing! 📝📝📝
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you!! And yeah to your writing!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
great post!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, Sofia. You are sweet.
LikeLiked by 1 person
That’s a nice advice, Ipuna. In life, things must be earned and not bought. Jy’s story added cherry to your cake!
LikeLiked by 4 people
Awe, thank you, Sadaf!
LikeLiked by 1 person
So true and inspiring! Will make my list asap! 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yeah! Thank you, Alifya! ❤️
LikeLike
This is so true! We have to work at what we want to accomplish! Such a great reminder
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you! ❤️ Now go get what you want! 💪🏽
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post, thanks for sharing – it is a great reminder. It seems too many people think that life owes them. Peace and blessings! 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
Yes! I’ve seen it a lot in my college students especially. (Although I have come across some very driven students. Love them.) You have to earn everything!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I love this post! This is so right, our wants do change through out time and nothing is handed. Such a solid point 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you very much, Lesley! I have four kids, so I have to teach them this. I don’t want to have them in my house forever either. 😂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Great post, well said👌🏻
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you for saying this so beautifully. Your thinking is mine.
LikeLike
Thank you! You’re blog is inspiring as well. Nice to meet you!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Lovely words from you.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Its very inspiring post Ipuna
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you. ❤️
LikeLike
Interesting.
LikeLiked by 1 person