Don’t Sweat over Things You Can’t Control

Posted on by Ipuna Black

We have limited energy, so why waste it on things you can’t control? What are you able to accomplish when you are frustrated or pissed off? My mind is a mess, and I can’t think clearly. It is much easier to tackle the obstacles in life if you save your energy on what you can control.

Stitches!

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If you get grossed out easily, you may want to stop reading now! We were at a friend’s house, and my daughter, Kayzle, slipped on the pool deck. She cut open her knee. We went to Quickcare first. They wouldn’t take her because her wound was too deep. We spent almost four hours in the Pediatric Emergency Department because she needed X-Rays and to get numbed. How many of you have no plans in the evenings? We all usually have a list of things we want to get done. That’s life. At that moment, all of my plans were dropped because I had no choice.

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It would have been easy to get upset that she slipped or think about all the things I needed to get done, but what would that have solved? I couldn’t turn back time and stop her fall. An emergency causes you to drop everything and focus on it. I stayed calm, focused my attention on my daughter, and everything else had to wait.

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What Do We Have Control Over? 

Here is a great article on seven things you can control in your life.

  • Your breath
  • Your self-talk
  • Your gratitude
  • Your body language
  • Your mental and physical fitness
  • Your diet
  • Your sleep

Of course there are many other things you can control such as:

  • Who you marry
  • Career choice
  • Education
  • Religious preference
  • When to have children or if you have children

What About You?

Where are you spending your energy? When I was younger, I used to get so frustrated when things didn’t go the way I had planned. As I’ve matured, I’ve realized that when I’ve allowed myself to get into the complaining and negative mentality, I attracted more negativity and was less productive. Our minds are powerful, and we have a choice on what we feed it. Do you want to feed it negative energy, or can you control your thoughts by not letting them spiral into the black hole? When you are hit with situations out of your control in the future, take a few deep breaths and think about all the things you can control. Change your focus to what you can control, and I promise that you will be amazed on your outlook on the situation. Things don’t look as doom and gloom as you might have imagined.

Remember that the sun rises and sets every day. ☀️ Let your problems set with the sun. Don’t dwell on any miseries that have past (you can’t control that!). Begin each day with a fresh start when you rise with the sun.

P.S. My daughter is doing well. She should get her stitches x 8 out soon!

Thanks for reading! Have a beautiful day! ☀️

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75 thoughts on “Don’t Sweat over Things You Can’t Control”

  1. Re-read the fourth sentence after “what about you”. You’ll notice something, Sunshine.
    Am glad Kayzle’s recovering. I love how you use such a situation to teach us something meaningful about living a positive lifestyle.
    You are totally right. Our minds are very powerful. How we choose to think will affect how we talk, behave, react, etc. Think negative and your day fills up with negativity.

    Really inspiring. 😀
    Much love to Jy and Kay.

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    1. That’s why I ❤️​ you. Typing too fast while trying to get the kiddos to their practices! I caught two typos. Oops. You’re the best, Jainey!!! (My 16 yr old editor! 😍​) I like using life experiences. I feel like I learn something new every day. Have a wonderful day my Dynamite friend!

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  4. Ipuna your posts radiate positivity and hope. Sunshine speaking about sun is just amazing. Speedy recovery to Kayzle. Love to your kids. ❤

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  5. Beautiful post well written.we can’t control every situation but we can control our thoughts and actions, how it affects us. Your daughters picture smiling at the end was the perfect finishing touch✨

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    1. Ha ha, John. It’s gross. When I first saw it (although I’m a nurse), it was hard and bleeding a lot, which made it worse. I can see wounds, but it is much harder when the wound is on my child. Have a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Kayzle is doing much better, thank goodness! Thanks on the post. It’s been much easier in life for me if I just don’t get worked up and focus on what I can. That gets easier the more you practice it.

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  8. OMG I PROBABLY SHOULDN’T HAVE KEPT READING. XD #squeamish asdfghjkl Your daughter is extremely brave to go through that! It looks so painful. 😦 And I love her name! XD Yes, so true — therea re so many things in life that you can’t control, and that just means that you just have to go with the flow!

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    1. HA ha ha 😂​, May! I should give more warnings. 😱​ Yep yep! Go with the flow. It’s tough as a writer when your writing time is stolen from you, but you have to make up for it somewhere else! Have a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Thank you, Patty! My positive attitude helped a lot. I also knew the doc who stitched her up. He trained me as a Nurse Practitioner. That was neat. I hope you have a wonderful weekend! ☀️​

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  10. Your daughter is brave just like you, Ipuna. We think about negative events because of negativity bias. Can we really control how our brain works ? Really tough. Until we come out of negative situation, the negative thoughts rule us. It’s the way God designed us. I will pray you have the courage to deal with all setbacks in life.

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  12. Although I’m very squeamish, i did not want to miss out on your post and I read it through all the same. First of all, well done: in your place, I would have fainted and not been able to take my daughter to the hospital ( it has actually happened that medical people had to rescue me instead of my injured kids). Thank you for this post. It also made me reflect on the fact that, while some of us can control our diet and sleep, not everyone can, and made me feel very lucky (even though I’m hopelessly pathetic around wounds…)

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    1. Ha ha. I’m sorry it made you squeamish, but I understand!!! I’m a nurse, and it was hard for me to look at (more because the wound was on my child). Control what we can control, right? Kayzle is doing better, so that’s great. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  13. That is so true
    So true

    There are things in life we don’t have control on
    To the things in life we have
    We have to make sure they weigh above the things that we dont have .

    The post was very very positive and insightful
    The thought pattern is like mines
    It was so nice reading it and nice meeting you.
    Your daughter is surely brave
    Get well soon to her 🙂

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  14. Wishing Kayzle a speedy recovery …I can understand the situation you must have gone through.

    I admire you for being calm and focused in such situation.

    Your post is great help for others as to how react in case of emergency situations.

    Take care of Kayzle. ..hope by now the stitches must have been removed …

    Have a nice time dear Ipuna…I am busy with preparations of my university semester exams to commence from 3rd week of May …I am bit cutoff from WP due to this

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  17. Hi

    Thanks for wonderful sharing. I love to share your words and suggestion. Keep on good work. Always share the good more things and suggest. Love to read your post.
    Thanks
    Krishan Kargwal

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  18. That’s quite the injury. She’s tough! Hope she got some ice cream! 😀 There is so much we have control over in our lives, but there’s far more out of our control. For that stuff, all we have control over is how we react to it. Great post!

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      1. If she reacted any way my son does around needles, I don’t envy you. He had to get stitches in his chin once (4 of them). It took 4 people to hold him down. Glad you’re headed up hill and all is well!

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        1. Yeah, we had 2 male nurses holding her down. I held her at the chest and talked to her. I have 4 kids. She is the baby and the first to get stitches. I will count that as a blessing! Your poor boy! Going at someone’s face is worse!

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          1. We’re on the same page. Good to know we’re not alone. My boys have gotten a bit better with needles as they’ve had a few flu shots and vaccines. We’ve learned to distract them and they never know. Stitches are a whole new ball game though!

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  19. I am so glad she is okay! What a trooper! My daughter fell off a swing onto her face the other day and had a gushing nose bleed for about an hour. Luckily no broken nose or lost teeth. I couldn’t tell at first though. It looked like she had just been in the ring with someone twice her size who punched her square in the face. Oh, the joys of motherhood=)

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  21. Sorry for the late lookout at your post.

    First of all:

    – She is a doll, with a lot of good traits like her mother, I am assuming. Most of the children would have panicked, kept weeping, I am seeing a wonderful trained girl, who has the courage to take the pain and deals with it. I am sure she will be a great mother like her mother over here.

    Second:

    I could have described it better than what you have wrote, some event are bound to tell us, drop your plan and take it what is meant for you.

    I have planned to do with loads of things, if you follow my blog regularly, but turned out since last week I am having crazy days in office.

    So I was thinking it’s probably a way to give me a break from loads of thing I have planned. To make energy for those things. And in the meantime, the crazy time in office is making my patience to deal with issues.

    So it’s different learning curves in the same shades of colors of my life.

    Children sees these things from parent as how they deal with them during these times.

    My daughter has this special attachment with me, she runs to me whenever she is hurt.

    Plus my personal take is, accident like such in children becomes a wonderful memory in future. And somehow you cherish it for some strange reason.

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    1. You do cherish some accidents for some reason! You are right. Thank you on your kind words. It seems like you have a wonderful relationship with your daughter. Thank you for sharing what goes well and what doesn’t in your days. We always have curve balls. You handle them well!

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      1. Daughters for us when they are born are treated as blessings.

        In Islam in our faith, daughter are step towards heaven. If a Father and mother, treats them right, give them good religious and worldly education, good manners and than finally wed them in a good household ie to a man. They will be granted to Heaven.

        So it’s hard efforts to get Heaven like this. Which turns to this relationship all more strong and demanding on us.

        Curve balls we always will going to have. That’s what we have been given a Mind and Heart to go with us. Else we won’t be having difference from animals. This is what makes the difference, we get the curve balls we either face it or run away from it.

        It’s the brave who face these balls, else running away it’s the most easy part.

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