Hello, everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Super Bowl weekend! I don’t care what team you were cheering for you have to admit, it was a good game! 🏈 If you didn’t watch the Super Bowl, hopefully, you still had a lovely weekend! I watched my son, Kobi, play in a football pilon tournament in LA, CA. It was fun taking a bus and being around a bunch of teenage boys. Kobi (#5) is the one in the middle with the white jacket on the bench.
Today, the thought of doubt came to my head. We all have it, but what do you do with it? Here are five tips that have helped me get past doubt.
- Accept it. Did you read that right? Um, yes you did. Accept doubt. As I had mentioned earlier, we all have it. Don’t ignore doubt. Listen to what it is saying to you.
- Understand where doubt is coming from. Take a moment to reflect where the doubt is stemming from. Fear? Lack of resources? A misunderstanding? Maybe write in a journal, meditate, or pray to gain clarity.
- Talk to someone. Talk to someone. None of us could make it through this world alone. I think people come and go in our lives for specific reasons. Have you ever doubted yourself and a teacher, parent, significant other, or friend told you how great you were at something? All of your doubt begins to dissipate because one person (or maybe more) believes in you. We are very hard on ourselves, so it isn’t always easy to believe in ourselves. Having one voice to lift you up or a shoulder to lean on can make all the difference in our confidence. Maybe you can be that voice or shoulder for someone else too. 🙂
- Step on it. Okay. Okay. I let you have your pity party long enough. It’s time to fight. Fight past that doubt. Make a plan, and if you don’t have the energy for a plan, take one step forward. All you need is one step at a time.
- Keep on walking. Don’t look back. Doubt may try to catch up to you, and it may even catch you. Guess what? That’s okay! Start steps 1-5 again. Just remember one thing: keep moving forward. I love this quote, “Even if you fall on your face, you’re still moving forward.”
Personal Story on Doubt
Here is a quick update on Jy’s (my 8 yr old) meeting I had today at the school for his IEP. He will have a special education assistant come into the classroom and help him 30 minutes a day, and he will leave the classroom 30 minutes a day for individualized teaching. He will have extended time for homework and exams. There are several other accommodations.
When my son first got home from the hospital at the end of November 2015, I was in complete denial that anything was wrong with him. He was a perfectly “normal” “healthy” boy again. This was far from the truth. Then, doubt crept in. Will my boy ever be “normal” again? (Reminder: he was hospitalized in a coma and quadriplegic for almost two months after receiving the flu mist.)
- Accept it. I had to accept where he was at after leaving the hospital.
- Understand where it is coming from. I wrote my feelings out and prayed to understand my doubt and fears. Every parent wants the best for his/her child. I felt a loss for the “normal” “healthy” Jy.
- Talk to someone. I spoke with many friends who reminded me that Jy is healthy. He is a blessing. I get a second chance with him.
- Step on it. Pity Party over. I had to focus on the Jy I had now. Take the steps I needed to get him better. Get him every kind of therapy I could get my hands on (if it helped him).
- Keep on walking. I don’t know if all of Jy’s therapies and special education will get him back to where he was at before, but we are moving forward. It is much better than feeling sorry for what happened to him. That solves nothing.
This is just one of many stories I’ve had on doubt. I’ve doubted career choices, what schools to attend, what degrees to earn, jobs, relationships, dreams, writing to you 😜, etc! But I’m a fighter like you, and we get through it.
Your Turn, Fighter! Tell Me How You Punch Doubt in the Mouth?
Doing all the talking is rude. 😀 I’m always looking to learn. What tricks do you use to overcome doubt? We are all fighters! I know it. 💪❤️